Advice
Q: "I was recently admitted to the hospital and wasn't at school for two weeks. A lot of people have been asking me why I haven't been at school. It's personal. I'm not sure how to reply without giving the 'bad attitude.' What can I say/do to get my point across without making it sound snobbish? Help?"
A: If you do not want to disclose the reason for your hospitalization, then you do not have to. If you don't want them to continue asking questions, you could say "It's personal," in a tone that would not cause the other person to regret asking. You could say it in a tone that merely informs them; answer in a way that answers the question and does not evoke a "Back off!" tone. You could look them in the eye, and just say it, without a tone. Just say it like an answer to a question, because that is what it is. You could also say that you don't want to talk about it if they still ask after that. Also be aware that there are some people who may want to help, and be there to listen; don't misjudge these for prying people.
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Q: I have trouble in school with texting and procrastination. I always put my work off until the next day. Also, texting is a major distraction while I am at school. I am always tempted to text while i get bored in school.
A: Why do people text in class anyway? Not only is it disrespectful to the teacher, but also, you really aren't paying attention to fully receive everything the class has to offer. Don't sit in class and text, leave the class, and complain of having a "bad teacher who does not know how to teach." Never accuse the teacher without examining your own behavior, as a student, in the class.
In class, to avoid checking your phone, either 1) Don't bring it to class or 2) Turn it off and secure it in a pocket in your bag or keep it out of your sight. Remind yourself that the class is not that long and you can check it as soon as the class is officially over. Plus, there were people before our generation who sat in a classroom without texting. I'm sure that's still possible today.
I know that having a phone with Internet, as a knowledge-seeking student, is tremendously beneficial, but nevertheless, the texting/Facebook/Twitter/Snapchat/Instagram apps do not need to be used at all times.
As for procrastination, just imagine those words that you tell people, those words that are stringed together a little like this: "I procrastinate too much. I really need to stop." Imagine if you no longer had to say that. What if it were: "I used to procrastinate. But now, I'm on my way to a procrastination-free life!" C'mon, say it with me...(repeat previous sentence)
Every time you feel your mind about to form the thought "Eh, I'll do it later--" Halt. Remember, you have that emblazoned P on your chest for procrastination. The only way to rid of it is to stare that assignment right in the eye, and say "You! You are coming off of my To-Do List!!" All you have to do is allocate a few minutes a day to focus your mind on it.
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